This post is the follow up on my post that I wrote the other day about how to spot those secret haters in your inner circle or in general (aka fake friends). My next tips in this post is how to figure out who is talking bad behind your back. Sometimes this trick will be very useful and sometimes it may take months or years until you know who they fake ones are or were…
I want to share you with something that took my years to figure out and how to use in the right way. At my biggest peak in my “blog career” I had over 400 000 readers every month. (Side note: imagine if Instagram had existed then it would have been lit haha!).
My blog was famous in Sweden and along with that come lots of fake friends and guys that try to use me.
So you got to develop thick skin and know how to weed out the bad people and losers from your life.
Then I moved to London and made a very active choice and stepped away from the shallow “blog world” in Stockholm. It was at this time I got a real eye opening experience and it made me a much stronger person.
So what did I do to figure out who was talking about me behind my back?
I started telling every person I got to know something unique about me or something that happened to me or someone in my life.
I never told the same piece of information to more than 1 person. For example it could be I shared a detail of something that happened to me or what I thought about something. In that way I remembered who I had told that information to.
Several times I heard about this story being told to me but from someone else in my circle, like “Omg Louise I heard you went there or you did this etc etc”, then I knew who was telling what I told them to other people and I knew to never trust them again. This was golden for me and I still do it to all people I get close to or fairly close to.
This is not meant as you go around and saying random things to different people, it is to be used when you are suspecting some might not be trustworthy or if you want to find out if you can trust them or not.
The thing you tell this person needs to be private enough for them to get their ears popping up and listening, but never ever tell these people something really private or sensitive. As the purpose is to see if you can trust them and if you can’t it will backfire…
This is just a good way to find out who is gossiping about you and who is your loyal friend.
Another easy way to tell if someone is going to gossip about you is to see if the gossip about others. If someone is telling me lots of gossip about someone, especially if they don’t know them very well or even know them at all, I can easily make the assumption that they will probably gossip about me too then. So no need to tell them anything after that point.
And if I got trust issues? You bet haha!! I’m a scorpio after all lol…
But dolls, always remember it is better to be alone than in bad company ♥
Fabs, they smile at your face but they ain’t well wishers…